It has taken me a long time to read this book and this is because I was getting married, putting my birth father (who I don’t have much of a relationship with) into assisted living, dealing with my business and other things that occur on a day to day basis. At the same time, any time I read a woman’s non-fiction book about our history, I find it difficult to take in the gravity of what is being said. Usually, it makes me angry and sick to my stomach and I often have to put the book down. It is hard to sit with what has happened to women in history or even in modern times. This book validated what I have felt all along. It is well written and researched and provided the necessary discussion topics, should I wish to do so or write about here.

I have never been a fan of claiming to be a feminist nor have I ever stood behind women’s movements or NOW or purchased a subscription to Ms. magazine (or even one issue). My gut feeling has always been that they didn’t speak for me, that something was missing and they were liberals who seemed to be bitchy women focused on their own drama, not mine. I have never hated men, I have never felt threatened by men’s groups and as a social worker, I felt that these groups were not helping young women but glamorizing unprotected sex. Abortion – for birth control isn’t the way to live your life. This is how young women see it. Russian Roulette with their bodies vs. birth control and respect for themselves.

I have also felt that single parents are the downfall of our society and the very reason we see generations of young women clinging to a man for comfort rather than making choices that would establish a future, not babies on welfare/WIC and so on. Everyone wants to go in the sensitive direction of “Oh, don’t blame the single parents.” Why? If we aren’t direct and honest, it continues to be that story of the Emperor with no clothes on. Same as with the trans movement now which I can already see hints of being kids raised in unhealthy households or single parent households, desperate for attention and love. For the former, we have a Morehouse College study from the late nineties, that looked at single parents and their children. They found that young girls were more likely to end up pregnant and the young boys were more likely to end up in juvenile detention centers. (The Morehouse Research Institute and the Institute for American Values 1999. Turning the corner on father absence in black America, A statement from the Morehouse conference on African-American fathers). Again, being a social worker in Oakland, California for almost a decade, saw that 99% of our children were fatherless, the second issue was drugs/alcohol and then of course their reason for removal: abuse and/or neglect.

Carrie Gress informs us that firstly, the women I felt had hidden agendas from the “feminist team” did. And, these leaders of the movement all came from unhealthy, single parent households with mental illness being claimed in the majority. They were closely aligned with the communist thinking, though they held this card close to their chest and you had to look for it in their speaking and writings (which this author did and shows). They have not taken a stand for women’s rights in regard to current concerns with bathrooms/locker rooms, sports, prisons, sororities, and women’s organizations and the author explains that they never cared about this in the first place. They were more focused on the ultimate goal of no gender whatsoever.

While Ms. Gress does point out good things that they were able to accomplish, which you certainly cannot ignore this, the bigger picture is that they were not speaking for all of us nor did they really support women’s rights. Just the one’s that worked for their liberal ideology. As many of us women are saying, if they really and truly believed in women’s rights, and misogyny holding us back and protecting women in general, they would maintain this even when men – with delusions of grandeur – are trying a new trick, a new standard of misogyny. Because, after all, women’s rights are women, plain and simple. Trans people are another category all together. The two do not belong in the same group.

The sacredness of woman and womanhood is something you cannot become, anymore than you can become a horse or a tree. All things are created in woman, on this earth, as we give birth to our world. Every living person, even the trans people, came from woman. No matter how delusional you want to be, a trans person will never be a woman. They will always be a mentally unwell, unbalanced human that could benefit from a good therapist without a political agenda. And what this book is showing, is that the end of woman is here in the intellectual sense, due to feminists having a hidden agenda, broken women or “the lost girls” clinging to this gang of feminists believing they have their back, when all they are good for is abortion talk and freedom of sex and sexuality. The feminists are not offering love and nurturance – anymore than the communists did, just a desire to have you conform to their way of thinking.

Ms. Gress quoted Jordan Peterson on page 126 speaking on these Lost Girls (the broken and wounded): “Women whose relationship with men has been seriously pathologized cannot distinguish between male authority and competence and male tyrannical power. Like they fail to differentiate because all they see is the oppressive male…Their experiences with men might have been rough enough so that differentiation never occurred. Because it has to occur. And you have to have a lot of experience with men, and good men too, before that will occur.”

Ms. Gress then asks the question, “What happens when the movement in general has been characterized by lost girls, by women who are so broken that they can’t discern toxic from healthy masculinity.”

I see this as a psychotherapist in private practice now, when I meet women who have grown up in unhealthy households and not a coincidence, fall into unhealthy partnerships. How do they know how to find or make good choices with a man, when they were never taught how to find the man “who is right for them,” rather than society focusing on “did you find the right man.” As if the right man is a hero on a white horse ready to save the day (which is what we have been taught). Whereas teaching young women to find the man who is right for them, is helping them to focus on boundaries, asking for what they want, and helping these women understand values and having respect for their bodies.

There is no respect for self taught when society is asking them “Which gender would you like to be,” or passing out free condoms, and making it clear that you have a right to abortion. The latter is only saying to focus on the ego, not your intuition, not to respect yourself, not to think of the future of the unborn child. And, as I mentioned earlier, these girls play Russian Roulette with their bodies, and the boys don’t even give condoms a passing thought either. It is really sick when you think about it. When you work with these unplanned children in social services, you see them being set up for prostitution, juvenile detention, and another generation of unplanned babies in the works, it is really sick that this is what feminists have brought us.

Not that abortions and birth control shouldn’t be discussed in a healthy manner between both sides of the table. Emergencies make sense. Birth control, if you are going to have sex, but healthy discussions with young girls about consequences, their future, and having respect for their bodies. Teaching young girls AND boys to have respect for themselves – but this should come from their parents. How does this happen when only one is there, or when both are there, one is a narcissist, the couple having their own problems and detach from the children. Single parents are so focused on pacifying their children, while they make the money. The other parent has skipped out, or not providing emotional or financial support. And, what I have begun to see since the early 2000’s are single parents trading their quality time – which should be with their children – for college degrees, while they work (and sometimes more than one job). How are the children being raised in these circumstances? They raise each other and the parent deals with “come what may.”

Ms. Gress leaves us with research from the 1930’s from J.D. Unwin, an English ethnologist and social anthropologist from Oxford and Cambridge University. His book, Sex and Culture found that when a cultural group abandoned monogamy, it collapsed within three generations. And, here we are. We have kids living in their parents basements, unplanned children in foster care, psych hospitals, juvenile delinquent centers and they are now raised in the sensitive generation where everyone gets a trophy. We are not building resilient children who can survive their parent’s death and what they will be forced to deal with in the aftermath, much less understanding how to raise their own unwanted children or dealing with a crisis of larger proportions. A teacher once asked our class in the 70’s – would you be able to survive a major crisis that would force you to have to know how to sew, cook, bake bread? There were other questions he asked that I can’t remember. At that time, I felt certain I would survive, as I knew how to do all of these things. Right now, I feel certain that if there was some type of apocalypse, I would have to have a really good gun and ammunition for all the sensitive children, now “adults” trying to play the video game of real life stealing from all the smart people who grew up learning to survive. Because they won’t.

And the conclusion is that while I felt validated by Ms. Gress’s book, as it was not a shocker to me, just gave me talking points, helped me to have research to understand what I knew intuitively all along, many women (the liberals) are going to hate it and not even give it some thought. Like with the abortion debate, there is no real intellectual discussion put on the table and as a result, nothing is solved and young women and men will continue to be raised by themselves, the government, children’s services and continue to create more versions of themselves. We are annihilating ourselves through ego, stupidity and ignorance, if not by the hands of our descendants, it will most certainly be by AI, which goes without saying.

What her conclusion is, in the book, is that we need to return to a monogamous society, to planned children, to practical thinking when it comes to joining with another person in matrimony and thinking about the impact we are going to have on the future. And, I can tell you that every woman who has had an abortion, wishes she didn’t or had thought through her sleeping arrangements (except women who had them for emergencies). Every woman who has had a divorce wishes there was mandated pre-marital counseling, or clergy who understood marriage, or parents who had prepared them. Every unwanted child wishes their parent would have used birth control, had been more conscious of the choices they made and wouldn’t have brought them in the world. And yet, while we all think these things, we still do exactly what our parents did, because we don’t know anything different.

Whether or not Babylon actually happened or not in real life, or if it is a metaphor in the Bible, this is where our world is now. We are not a metaphor, we are reality. We are celebrating America’s 250, with people ashamed to call themselves a patriot. With people who don’t even know or understand our history. With organizations, like Daughters of the American Revolution, who have no integrity to women whatsoever, just like the feminists. We have people hooking up with strangers on Tinder and Grinder apps, to have sex. We have people confused by their sexuality and calling themselves made up names, gender terms and marking up their bodies and minds with propaganda that will only destroy them in the end. We are ruled by our ego’s not by love, common sense, self-respect, dignity, appreciation for family and a determination to make this world a better place. Not with any consideration whatsoever for the future that comes from this idiotic mentality.

In 2000, my thesis focused on batterers and during the research I found firstly that money was spent solely on victims, because we were more concerned with locking the perpetrators up (rather than healing). Secondly, I uncovered information on what made a healthy society by David Levinson in his 1989 book Family Violence in Cross-cultural Perspective. He concluded that women’s economic equality and independence significantly reduce family violence, and he suggested that healthier societies are those where gender equality is prioritized. Men and women, are what he was referring to, nothing more, nothing less.

We need to focus on returning to values, faith/spirituality, thinking about society as a whole and what is in the best interests for all. The nonsense of living through our ego and sexualizing our children – abusing their minds with things that are not normal for children to listen to needs to stop. Returning to equality for men and women, as our main goal. If trans people want to live out their thoughts, that is not societies business to get involved with and force rules and laws that destroy women and men who are clear who they are. It is not prudent for our society to sabotage the healthy by pushing unhealthy mindsets into our day to day lives. Women and men need safe, sacred spaces to congregate and live and join with each other. This helps us to grow, to heal, and to become more aware. Unhealthy mindsets need psychotherapy. Children should not be abused. Parents need to raise their children, teaching them to respect themselves, to develop critical minds, to be conscious of their choices, and help guide them in choosing smart, safe, reliable and responsible partners. Instead of focusing on birth control and abortions, we need to focus on teaching adolescents to respect themselves and each other. Sex isn’t a game, it is a way toward creating a future through women. Couples don’t need to necessarily have children, and shouldn’t if they don’t want them. This only creates abused kids anyway. Our Babylonian existence can be turned around by returning to this path and being conscientious of others. What is in the best interest of all, through my choices, societies choices, and this comes by working together, listening, asking questions and not indulging. Focusing on strengths rather than weaknesses. Educating critical thought, not sensitivity. Trusting your instincts, not your ego.